Malam itu hujan mengguyur. Udara dingin menusuk tulang. Di ujung Desa Kemiren, Banyuwangi, tersua panggung gandrung terop lengkap dengan panjak dan niyaga pengiring pengantin. Tata panggungnya sederhana. Pencahayaan seadanya. Dari belakang muncul gandrung Temu melenggok, mengibaskan sampur, dan menggoyang pinggulnya yang sintal diiringi dua gandrung muda.
Untuk Anda penggemar olahraga surfing yang menginginkan sebuah pengalaman yang menguras adrenalin, bersiaplah untuk berkunjung ke sebuah pantai di Jawa Timur.
Terhampar di wilayah seluas 5.800 km persegi, Banyuwangi memiliki topografi yang lumayan komplit -mulai dari dataran rendah hingga pegunungan- untuk ditanami berbagai tanaman industri. Tidak hanya tanahnya yang subur, Kabupaten Banyuwangi juga memiliki potensi yang sangat besar dalam sektor pariwisata.
“Sing koyo ring Banyuwangi rujak akeh macemme…..” (Tidak seperti di Banyuwangi rujak banyak macamnya), demikianlah syair sebuah lagu Banyuwangian yang populer pada awal tahun tujuh puluhan. Lagu tersebut menggambarkan betapa banyaknya ragam makanan di Banyuwangi, khususnya makanan rujak.Ada rujak janganan, rujak cingur, rujak ramonan, rujak kecut dlsb.
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On Sunday one of my best friends, a well-known author, Mbak Alberthiene Endah (AE) Â decided that she’s deactivating her twitter account @alberthieneE – you can read the well written chronology in @alderina ‘s blog. I really wanted to express something about this, but 140 characters can’t contain it and I find myself wordless. So now, I’m trying to write something about it from my personal point of view and how I see it from the perspective of a close friend.
At midnight after closing her account, Mbak AE called me. She said that she can’t take it anymore. She’s referring to twitter and all the harsh messages she get. I feel personally conflicted that day. I know that it’s her decision that I need to respect. But in the other side, I should’ve tried to explain better about the twitvironment and its behavior before she’s closing her account.
“Maybe twitter is not for me,” she said. I know AE for some times and I know that she’s very kind and have a tender heart. She didn’t meant what she said the way it was on twitter. But the lack of emotion and unable to recognize tone of the voice in twitter text make the message she sent sound extremely cold and straightforward.
I follow everything that happened and I read harsh messages appointed to her that are already going out of context. And we’re not talking about just one person. People assumed there’s a person who make her quit twitter. Hint: only people that means a lot to your heart, can hurt you.
People argue whether it can be called a bully. For me, when someone feel bullied, then it’s a bully. We don’t need much definition of it.
Some said it’s too much drama. Well, did we really expect people’s personality to be exactly the same like us?
Some talking about how it took 3 hours for her to close her account. In great respect to her, she didn’t know much about technology but she’s willing to try to use it. She need other person (@amrazing) to do the deactivation and it took so long maybe because he was reluctant to do that. Why? Because AE tweets great stuff about life and love. And she helped a lot of people (emotionally) with her tweet.
This is the reason why I write this post. AE tweets are helping hands for every followers (especially young people) who emotionally needs it the most. Those who already been in dark moments in life would understand how positive words, especially created by a great writer like her, would really really help to hold on. Now that she’s not there, many of her followers feel a great loss. And I’m one of them.
“The Internet makes bullying more convenient and since the victim’s reaction remains unseen people who wouldn’t normally bully don’t take it as seriously.”
Let’s remember: there’s a real person on the other side of the line. Even though we can only see avatar and username, there’s a real man/woman and personality in that tiny piece of bio. Let’s agree to disagree. Be nice, as much as we can.
Update
Dear friends, I read all your comments and appreciate your point of view. To make it clear, I am not representing mbak AE or expressing her feelings. I am solely speaking my own mind and what I feel about this from my perspective, from what I saw. But words are limited and a lot of things I can felt  better than express in words. I am sorry if there’s something I said in the post that is not in-sync with you or maybe AE’s mind herself. Much love xo
I was invited by Ibu Betty Alisjahbana from Mastel to a regional event held in Jakarta about women and technology – or the right phrase is: Women in ICT, along with other delegations from all over ASEAN countries.
It’s of course something that has been on my area of interest. Ibu Mari Elka, Indonesia’s Minister of Trade opening the event nicely with statistics she found out at APEC: Women & Economy Summit. From the statistics, she can concluded that women are still under value.
From her speech, she pointed out that women with husband and children sometimes feel guilty when they have to work busier or travel away from their family for works. You might have to choose between your career and your family.  But now with technology women can do both and can find balance in their life. They can use video conference without having to physically attend the meeting, so they can stay at home. They can do  a lot of activities with the help of technology. Now, it’s the policy maker turn to make a friendlier policy and best practice for the flexibility and the use of technology for women.
In terms of mindset, there are a lot of things that need to be change. The first is attitude. People used to warn that women don’t have to be too ambitious because they will hard to get a husband. Seriously… the potential of 50% of the population is not growing because of these kind of mindset. The growth of community and country is at risks!
Dealing with women, it’s of course need a different method. You need a comprehensive approach, giving them courage to even want to start their own business. Give them successful role models that they can look up to and inspired them to shine.
After that then we can go on to the next step of technical training for the specific use of technology.
Ibu Betty show some results of the survey Mastel conducted in ASEAN countries for 3 categories: entrepreneurs, empoyees and ICT users. But the survey still on going and I believe Mastel will release the results afterwards. Meanwhile you still can participate in the survey via website http://women-in-ict.com
Women can use technology for various purposes:
Search useful information (such as medicine, cooking recipe, etc)
Selling things online
Make online payment
Corresponding with email & chat
Order or buy online
Social media activities
And various activities that can help forming opinions, making decisions and giving support to who needs it
I also catch interesting sharing by Yoori from APWINC Korea and Aurora Rubio from ITU about their experiences in training ICT to urban and rural area women.
The training include: using the computer, problem solving skill, information search skill, social networking
For rural area, the training tools are:
Interactive basic computer and internet literacy training student manual
Guide manual for instructor
Exercise database bank
Interactive customized training tools for women (involved in farming, weaving)
The customized training tools are most interesting because by gathering women with the same livelihood (such as in farming), they can be teach specific knowledge on using technology to support their farming activities.
Pre-consultation research about the people and the area, also replication method to spread the knowledge to the local are among the most important factors to the success of the program.
A story about Tortas in Peru is also a very inspiring case. Tortas is sort of doing online bakery. A group of rural women will accept order from the internet. Aside from selling bread, they also give baking tips on their website. That’s the important of follow up training on marketing after they have their website running.
Women can be hard, tough and disciplined yet their compassion will win people’s heart. Most urban, even rural area women have known technology but they need to maximized the use of it. We have the same opportunities with men, it’s up to us to overcome the barriers and took the advantages.
I believe in life signs and nothing in this world is a coincidence. Sometimes I believe it too much that my friend @b4nch4 would say, “You’re the only person I know that would buy gadgets by seeing signs!” :))
By believing in that, I become a calmer individual. Bad things that happened won’t pissed me off that much. Just like yesterday…
I am dead busy. Need to take care of a lot of things. My schedule is full ’til the end of the month. And even though I love what I’m doing, at some point I am tired.
I was surprised that my assistant manage to give me time to go to my acupuncturist yesterday. I felt guilty to go there on my busy schedule. I was about to cancel when my assistant said she just rescheduled me to the afternoon session. I see it as a sign, so I’m on with the plan despite my piling up to-do list.
I had a condition that make me need to meet my acupuncturist regularly. But I haven’t had chance to go back for months. She’s a famous and busy acupuncturist, as usual, I have to wait in line, try killing time tweeting. But suddenly none of my gadget works for that purpose. 3G is on but it didn’t connected. I see it as a sign. I take out Aleph by Paulo Coelho and enjoy reading instead. The book has successfully pull me in and I lost count of time ’til I heard they call my name.
My acupunturist smirked when she recognized me. She’s doing the usual cold hard procedure of stabbing me with needles. And before I begin to scream, she’s already done. “Did you lost your progress book again?” She said without looking at me, writing down something on her note. Ups. I did. I walked out from her office feeling like I have accomplished something for myself.
I had few hours to kill before my next event and I jump to a small shopping mall in front of the dr office. I skip lunch, starving, and I need some
snacks. Well, I thought I need snack. I stop at the duck restaurant where they served a huge crispy duck. Too big for a snack. But I am meant to properly eat. So I eat, enjoying my food wholeheartedly, because I still can’t connect to twitter.
I’ve been carry-ing a huge heavy bag daily and it started to hurt me. I visit a small spa space where they offer relaxing massage package. I enjoyed my massage for an hour, even asking for additional head + ear massage too, felt totally relaxed and recharged!
When all my self-indulgence finished, it seems that the connection start to work again. Messages from my assistant started flowing in. And I can handle it with better energy.
The day was closed nicely; having a good laugh with friends. The only person had problem was my mom: “You’re not tweeting for 6 hours! Are you okay??” She said on the phone.
I chuckled. Now the sign of my existence is my tweet.
I was introduced to someone at an event. My friend would introduced me as writer and entrepreneur. And I got this comment about my sleep. “Wow! You must have less sleep!” I thought it was true. But then I make a fun research on how much sleep I have per day. (Not much research, only checking my last tweet hehehe). Turned out I slept on about 6 – 10 hours a day. That is so normal and almost too much :))
So, I guess my sleep has nothing to do with the quantity of works that I’m doing. At night, I never had energy to do anything because I already tired. I can’t think much. That’s why I’m so amazed with my journalist friend @shirleydaily  that still can write amazing piece of article at 4 am in the morning after interviewing us at 2 am :))
I prefer to manage my energy. And I think that’s the key. When I’m tired at night, I prefer to read (books, tweets or feeds) and digest new knowledge. In the morning when I wake up, I go straight to writing, making concept, scratching visions, making presentation slides, etc that need full focus & concentration. Later on, I can continue working on my daily operational life such as read and answering 100 emails :))
When I need to go to meetings, between traffic, I always try to have power nap too so I can refresh and at my best condition to follow the meeting.
I find Wunderlist is a perfect to-do list app, so I can easily sync and prioritize on what should be done.
Eid Holiday is officially over! Now, we’re preparing for the busy routine and I think this book by Mireille Guiliano: Women, Work & The Art of Savoir Faire (you can buy this book from Amazon via Kutukutubuku.com by emailing admin at kutukutubuku.com) is one of the best to read in these times. It’s like a guide book especially for women to ‘know-how’ (savoir faire).
The writing style of the book is personal, light and page-turning. The author has succesfully written the best-selling book “French Women Don’t Get Fat” before, so we can expect the same quality in this book.
Mireille tells story about her experience as a CEO in a company. She’s opening her book by reminding us that life is lived in episodes and stages. I take it as we have to be flexible on what opportunities life can bring us. Yes we plan things, but if it’s not turned out the way we want, just twist your plan a little bit and shine.
Presentations. When doing this, make sure your slides are simple. Your presentation slides  should support you to deliver your points. Not overwhelming you instead. Check with your boss/mentor about the content and always rehearse out loud before doing it. That’s all important keys to your presentation success.
The style. You must decide how you represent yourself. She’s quoting, “If a woman is not well dressed, one notice her for the outfit, but if she’s impeccably dressed, it’s she that one notices.” If you always find it hard to think nice outfit for the day, spend the night before to think and decide which clothes you wanna wear tomorrow. It works to effectively use your morning time. You can find inspiration from websites or magazine, but it’s not neccessarily means new clothes. You can always mix & match.
To reduce stress, whenever something big happened related to opportunities, risk and decisions, breath then ask yourself: What’s the worst thing that can happen? That way you can be more relax.
Mireille also describing how good leaders should be. One of the most interesting part from this, she said a leader should have a remarkable self confidence. Don’t complicate things. A leader also have to grow thick skin. Thick-skinned leaders can always listen to criticism and learn from it when appropriate, but also understand that there will seemingly always be 20% of just plain noise, so don’t take it too personally or let it divert you from the more important foci. Don’t invest psychic or physical energy on things you can’t control; focus on the positive.
Last but not least, Mireille also suggest us to have our scheduled ‘beach time’ to find balance. Also start the day with healthy routine, I think us Muslims already done it with Fajr/Subuh Prayer
What I’ve learned from this book, French people always try to enjoy the process of every moment. They don’t rush it. They find magic in their activities. And that makes their ‘Joie de Vivre’ attitude more vibrant.
salsabeela: Konsep urban warteg tu menarik juga :) Tanya @mataharicha aja kalo pengen tau
salsabeela: Konsep urban warteg tu menarik juga :) Tanya @mataharicha aja kalo pengen tau
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